this week is born ugly

“Some days are born ugly. From the very first light they are no damn good what ever the weather, and everybody knows it. No one knows what causes this, but on such a day people resist getting out of bed and set their heels against the day. When they are finally forced out by hunger or job they find that the day is just as lousy as they knew it would be.” – John Steinbeck, “Sweet Thursday”

It’s a sad fact of life (mine, at least) that no amount of organization – washi tape and cute stickers in planners, dinners carefully plotted and shopped for, weekends spent doing laundry and filling empty tanks with gas – can really offset a week that is just determined to be bad. It’s also a fact that some weeks aren’t bad because anything bad actually happens, but because I am somehow incapable of viewing anything that happens as good. This may not make any sense but it’s been my reality this week in particular.

This week I hate my job, and everyone is on my nerves and asking for ridiculous things at the last minute that I can’t accomplish and even if I could I wouldn’t want to. I don’t want to work out because I’m sick of the treadmill and then I’m more miserable because I haven’t worked out. I haven’t gotten any natural light in days and all of my pants are too tight. This week the cats have run out of Prozac and are bickering and yowling at odd hours of the night and waking everybody up. This week I tried new recipes from new cookbooks that Miss L ended up hating and by the way she can’t find her tights for dance.

This week I have to watch more squawking Republicans on television while they try to make lame excuses for their morally and ethically bankrupt President who is so undeserving of any sort of defense that it’s enough to gag a maggot off a gut wagon, as my grandmother is wont to say (although not about Trump, sadly).

I’m sure next week will be better and I am TRYING TO REMEMBER TO EXPRESS GRATITUDE AND NOT PISSINESS DAMN IT.

Thank you for listening to my rant and I will be back soon with an improved attitude (IF IT KILLS ME).

In the meantime, a few things that I’ve used as sandbags this week against the creeping tide of irritation.

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still getting up early!

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sneaky handknits for my work commutes…

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I don’t even need gold; just maybe a week or so of vacation

show us your books! december reads

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It feels like a long time since we’ve had a Show Us Your Books! It seems like I would have had some extra time for by-the-fireplace reading and under-the-Christmas-tree reading but the holiday flurry of activity actually made it harder for me to carve out good reading time. Still, I had a couple of good ‘uns.

Without further ado:
The Revolution of Marina M. by Janet Fitch was a whomper in terms of sheer length and you know, anytime you get into the Russian revolution it’s going to be weighty subject matter. A blurb described it as a female Dr. Zhivago and I can see that (we actually re-watched “Dr. Zhivago” while I was reading this book and it was immensely satisfying). Marina is the daughter of a wealthy Russian family before the 1917 revolution and as the events unfold, she makes several choices that put her at odds with her family and friends, and set her on a dangerous yet liberating path through the political upheaval. I actually picked this up because the sequel is on the New Book shelf at the library and it interested me, but I thought I should read the first one first. I liked the characters and found this very engaging and well-written and led to many discussions about Russian history with Brandon, who went there in the 1980’s.

The Year of Less: How I Stopped Shopping, Gave Away My Belongings, and Discovered Life Is Worth More Than Anything You Can Buy In A Store by Cait Flanders wins the award for book with a title longer than the book itself. The subject matter is pretty self-explanatory – I thought this was okay. It wasn’t what I expected, and was maybe more self-indulgent than it could have been, but it’s nice to read about people coming to the same conclusions about consumption and excess that I am. It’s impressive that Ms. Flanders did so at such a young age and I wish that I’d been as self-aware as she is when I was her age.

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obligatory cat picture featuring pot roast!

The Chalk Pit by Elly Griffiths (Ruth Galloway #9) yep, still on the Ruth Galloway kick although I have just one more in the series to read. This one wasn’t as absorbing for me as her previous contributions but I still love Ruth and her friends, colleagues, neighbors and nemeses and have #10 sitting on my desk at home waiting to start.

City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert was also not what I expected. It took me awhile to get caught up in this one, although the time period is interesting, and the characters and the writing in general were well done. I didn’t start to really connect with the story and feel involved until about halfway through, and I’m glad I hung in there, because the main character as a grown woman was more intriguing than her young self. I wished there had been more detail in the second half of the story rather than the first. Set before, during, and after WWII in New York, in a rattletrap theater full of fascinating female characters and few raffish men, this story is somewhat thematically similar to Revolution of Marina M. as it also traces a young woman’s liberation and independence through a charged social & political time, and we share her coming of age as major cultural shifts take place around her.

Big Sky by Kate Atkinson caused me to drop everything else while I was reading it because I LOVE Kate Atkinson and I LOVE Jackson Brodie (and his estranged soulmate Julia). This contribution to Jackson’s arc didn’t appeal to me as much as his past endeavors but I still couldn’t put it down, despite the distasteful plot (spoiler: there is human trafficking). As always, there are several seemingly unrelated threads and characters that wander in and out and then are brought together expertly by Atkinson in the climax. I will always love Jackson and I will always love Kate Atkinson, and it’s a toss up as to which of her book styles I like better – her mysteries or her more experimental themes such as she explored in “God In Ruins” and “Life After Life”. Either way, she is an absolute winner in my book and this one is no different. I look forward to seeing where Jackson goes next.

No audiobooks this month since I was listening mostly to Josh and Chuck on the “Stuff You Should Know” podcast and also our Local 4 WDIV podcast “Shattered” Season 4 about Jimmy Hoffa.

Look forward to checking out everyone else’s reads this month!

Life According to Steph

 

weekend randoms

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Emmett is off his kitty Prozac and feeling needy

We spent most of yesterday with our eyes on the skies and our weather apps as the forecasters had told us to expect an “unprecedented” winter storm that would “more than likely” result in power outages. We hauled our woodpile into the garage and then watched it rain, and rain, and rain, and then sleet a little bit, and this morning it’s brightly sunny and clear. Don’t get me wrong – I am NOT complaining.

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Our sideyard always floods!

My mom got me this skillet cookbook for Christmas along with two hardcore cast iron skillets and last night I made a chicken and rice recipe. It was excellent and I can’t wait to try some skillet bread & other recipes. There’s something about cast iron.

I’m trucking on my sweater and finished the ribbing, so very soon will be starting on sleeves and maybe have an unblocked, work-in-process photo to share…just a reminder that I’m knitting the Pink Memories pattern by Isabell Kraemer. I also got these adorable progress keepers from the Etsy shop Bump on a Hill and I can’t wait to use them on the sleeves.

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I’m doing a lot of knitting to a new-to-me vlog these days – Talasbuan, about a couple in Sweden going off-grid. The photography is just lovely and their journey fascinating.

And we are still on the fence about the new Dracula on Netflix, but likely going to tune in for the second episode tonight!

I hope you are warm and dry and I will see you here on Tuesday for Show Us Your Books – I have a couple great ones to share!

xo

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ice bath

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The first week back after the holiday is always a bit of an ice bath. I was actually somewhat refreshed from my holiday vacation and while not exactly “ready” to go back to real life, I’m at least holding up. I still feel pretty behind – I meant to post earlier this week, my birdfeeders are empty and I haven’t done a good job at keeping up with exercise this week – leaving in the dark, coming home in the dark, tired but pushing forward.

 

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It’s helped that I’ve been working my plan in three main areas this week:
First, it’s Dry January, which always makes me feel healthy and well-rested. It’s also No-Spend January, which means I only spend on necessities or things that I planned for / wrote down on my “approved” list.
Second, I’m making a concerted effort to get up and out the door early and not linger around the house, unwashed and in pajamas, delaying my eventual groaning slog into the office after taking Miss L to school. I’m dropping her off and heading straight in to work, and the office is pretty peaceful until about 9:00. I can get a solid hour-plus of work in before the phone calls, emails, and colleague drop-bys begin. This also capitalizes on my most productive time of day, so it’s a win. Pot Roast helps with this as she views it as her personal job to get Miss L and I up and out the door. She’s not happy until she knows we’re both dressed, packed, and moving in that direction and then, worn out, she retires to bed for a well-deserved nap.
Third, I am using my planner like a champ, meal planning, shopping, and getting things crossed off.

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Next week will be easier and every day the sun stays up for a little bit longer. We celebrated Elvis’ birthday this week (Brandon is a big Elvis fan) at our local historic movie theater – the Civic always shows an Elvis film on his birthday and this year it was “King Creole”. The audience is full of regulars who show up year over year, we’re indulgent and affectionate, we laugh gently at the cringy bits and applaud the singing.
I hope if this is your first week back in a post-holiday routine that you are putting one foot in front of the other, managing the stress and tragedy of the world around us right now, and staying healthy and safe.

start the way you mean to finish

I’m not big on posts that are essentially “all the awesome things that happened to me / I accomplished / I read / I ate in 20xx” so this isn’t that. I do, however, like a bit of reflection.

That sweater hasn’t gotten knit yet (although I just have ribbing, pockets, and sleeves to go); I beat my running mileage goal by 1.5 miles; and I read a lot of good books.

2019 was a wonderful year for me, after several bad-to-middling ones; but rest assured, if you are going through a hard time and don’t want to read a self-congratulatory post, please know that I had to go through rough times to get to this part of my life. A lot of them were through my own choices. So now, every day that I’m able to see the blessings in being surrounded by love, peace, calm, simplicity, and family is a day that I feel immense gratitude for. I fought against myself so hard for so long, and against the flow of my life, and against things that were good for me and made me happy, and I’m so thankful for the person I am now, and for all of my people – family born and family chosen.

The last couple of days of the year have been restful and quiet, some shopping, some running, lots of eating and drinking and cats.

I’m really excited for 2020 and so grateful for all of you who read this blog and look at my pictures and keep coming back.  I look forward to starting 2020 the way I mean to finish it, with gratitude and love and peace, and that’s my wish for all of you, as well.

See you next year.

xoxo

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“for last year’s words belong to last year’s language; and next year’s words await another voice.” – TS Eliot

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We’ve been enjoying a quiet holiday week at home. Our Christmas morning was relaxing and simple, opening presents with Miss L and having a nice breakfast; Pot Roast was particularly involved in the morning festivities and thought all of the presents were HERS.

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“MINEZ??”

Brandon’s birthday lands on Christmas so since we’ve been dating, we’ve had his folks over for Christmas dinner to celebrate. He has simple tastes – he considers it the best birthday ever when he has his family around him, he gets a rock & roll birthday cake featuring one of his fave artists, and he gets a nice bottle of whiskey to nurse throughout the year. This year, he got a Ramones cake (last year was Morrissey and two years ago, Elvis) and a bottle of Clyde Mays. It was expensive so hopefully it’s good (while I like beer and wine, and the occasional gin & tonic when the weather permits, I can’t abide whiskey, bourbon, Scotch – anything like that. Just the smell makes me ill. So I leave it to him to judge).

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third verse, different from the first

We also had filet mignon and some baked Brie and lots of wine and forgot to open champagne. I think it was a happy day for all of us.

Miss L went to her dad’s and Brandon went back to work, so I spent my Boxing Day in a delightfully empty house in pajamas. I’d intended to go for a run but just could not muster myself; instead, I napped, finished up some Vlogmasses on YouTube, finished reading “City of Girls” by Elizabeth Gilbert (review to come on Show Us Your Books in January), and puttered around the house. All of my favorite things!

Today I finally left the house, and accompanied Miss L and her Girl Scout Troop to a showing of the new Little Women, which I really liked, except for a couple of minor quibbles regarding its length (CAN’T we go back to the days of shorter films) and Laura Dern as Marmee (come ON). I went into it thinking that no one could do a better Jo than Maya Hawke and I came out a Saoirse Ronan convert. But I’ll admit that the absolute high point for me was Timothee Chalamet as Laurie especially after seeing him in “The King” on Netflix.

I’m off until after the first of the year and I love the feeling of forgetting what day it is.

I hope you are all having a wonderful week so far and looking forward to a happy weekend doing things you enjoy.

xoxo

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solstice celebrations

We’ve been up north for a few days celebrating the solstice with my folks. We’ll be home for Christmas but in the meantime we’ve been enjoying the unseasonably mild temperatures and doing some last minute shopping and adventuring.

We hit Glen Arbor to visit Cherry Republic and loaded ourselves down with free samples. The big joke in my family re. Cherry Republic is that when Miss L was a tiny thing, we were driving home from an expedition there and I heard her in the backseat munching on free samples she’d stowed in her pockets.

We also visited the exceptionally wonderful Cottage Books, where they gave us a bag full of graphic novels that they’d gotten as complimentary copies. Of course we HAD to buy books as well so we were laden.

And we had our traditional winter solstice hike. The sun did its valiant best but by 3PM was hanging low in the sky, its strength spent. No matter- we’ve turned the corner now. Brighter every day ahead.

My mom and I took a short road trip to a yarn shop in Cedar that I’d seen on several blogs and ‘grams and vlogs. Wool and Honey is so beautiful and the owner is just a lovely, warm soul. We were instantly charmed and comfortable and spent a long time looking at their yarns and notions and extensive selection of patterns. Their Sleeping Bear Yarn club has some exquisite colorways that truly embody the natural beauty of this part of the state combined with artisan fiber craftsmanship. I was so happy to be able to visit and buy a couple of skeins of different types of wool for gifts for my own self.

We love this part of the world and always feel like our buckets are filled after a few days here.

That being said, we will also be happy to be back downstate tomorrow for our Christmas Eve and Christmas celebrations, and reunited with Brandon, Emmett, Sarge, and Pot Roast.

I hope you all have a very happy holiday week no matter what you celebrate.

My warmest wishes to you and yours! xoxo

parental valor, planners and a finished object

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I had a tummy bug on Monday and let me tell you, the unsung moments of parental heroism really come when you are valiantly striving not to humiliate your child by vomiting in the middle school dropoff line. Miss L may never fully appreciate this enormous act of valor but I certainly felt proud of myself! I slept most of the day and was better within 24 hours but man, it was touch and go for awhile.

So THAT was a poor start to the week, but the weekend preceding the ailment was great. Miss L and I drove up north for a quick visit with my parents and we took my mom to see The Nutcracker as performed by the Interlochen Arts Academy Dance Company and Orchestra. It was the first time for Miss L and I to see Nutcracker live and it was a beautiful performance.

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And now it’s the week before Christmas and I’m trying my best to clear my desk off at work and be ready for a long holiday break. I finished a trial run at a pattern I purchased just recently – The Petite Jumper by The Petite Knitter. I saw this on the Fiber Tales vlog and immediately wanted to make it. This first one turned out a bit wonky as I twisted the needles on one of the sleeves when knitting in the round. But the second one I just finished (in the same colors) is much better. I’m doing a couple to accompany Christmas presents for near-and-dears and then I’m going to do a couple more using the same colors but in different mixes – so a cream body with red and brown accents, a red body with cream and brown accents, etc. – for a little garland. It’s a very quick, cute pattern but, as Fiber Tales noted in her vlog, it is a little fiddly and requires some concentration (I’m just happy I remembered how to do a color chart in the round).

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In the Happy Mail department, I got some boxes full of materials for soap-making (more on that in the New Year) and I’ve received my 2020 planners – I went with Hobonichi this year. I want to do a better job this year with bullet journals / planners. We keep a Google calendar for Miss L, so both of her households can stay up to date on her activities, but for my own personal life, I’ve never really adjusted to an electronic calendar and much prefer paper. Additionally, working for a Japanese company, I love the Japanese minimalist aesthetic and the cultural emphasis on making organization and efficiency an art form.For work, where I need more writing space for meeting notes, I got the Hobonichi Techo, which has monthly pages and pages for individual days with inspiring quotes / factoids at the bottom of each 2-day stretch. In addition, it’s the Steiff limited edition so it has the Steiff bear on the cover underneath the Hobonichi kanji. I really love this planner and wish that I’d gotten the Techo for my personal planner, too (I strictly separate my work life and personal life – separate phones, separate notebooks, separate planners – working in a Legal department will do that to you). Instead, I got the Hobonichi Weekly for my personal planning and I feel a little sad that it is small and doesn’t have individual day pages. Still, though, it’s a great size for my purse or knitting bag or work satchel, and I ordered several cute pens and markers and washi tapes when I placed a recent order from a Japanese pen/stationery shop for Miss L’s stocking.

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So these are just a few notes from Suburban Elysia. I hope you are all enjoying the best things about the holiday season and letting go of anything that doesn’t serve you. Be well and take some time for yourself before things get any more hectic. xoxo

show us your books! november reads

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I can’t believe we are already here for Show Us Your Books! In between Thanksgiving preparations, a quick work trip to Indiana, knitting and soap making, I had a solid month of reading and am pleased to share at least one recommendation from a fellow reader and linker from last month!

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So, with the obligatory cat picture out of the way, let’s jump right in.
Good Husbandry by Kristin Kimball was my first and one of my favorite reads this month. I’d read her first book, the Dirty Life, last year, which relayed how she, a New York writer, went to an organic upstart farm to interview the owner / operator, and how, subsequently, she fell in love with him. It was a happy and romantic and funny story of uprooting her entire life to marry him and follow his love of farming, the rhythms of the seasons, and the earth to table / good food movements. Good Husbandry is her follow up and it was not as lighthearted as Dirty Life – but that’s partly why I liked it. The bloom is off the rose here, and what we have is an honest assessment of the struggles to make ends meet as a farm family. Kimball writes about not having enough time, money, or hands to balance the dawn to dark work of a small farm with motherhood and marriage. I loved her truthful insights about the parallels of all of those kinds of work, joyful but sober. It reminded me, in spirit if nothing else, of Laura Ingalls Wilder’s The First Four Years.
The Scholar by Dervla McTiernan was a recommendation from a fellow linker from last month (I’m so sorry, I didn’t make a note of which of you lovelies read & shared it) but I enjoyed it and will definitely read more of her Cormac Reilly installments. Irish police detective work and thorny family politics made the pages turn (speaking of Irish detectives, anyone watching the Starz! interpretation of Tana French’s Dublin Murder Squad and if so what say ye?? I’m a bit hooked)
Who Slays the Wicked by C.S. Harris ended up being a satisfactory Regency detective yarn that I didn’t think I’d like as much as I did. The seemingly endless titles – “Marquis” this and “Viscount” that – initially reminded me of the old bodice ripper romance novels I occasionally read when I was a young teenager. But I found myself turning the pages to see what Sebastian St. Cyr could come up with next. Not sure I’d pick up another in this series, though.
The Summer Book by Tove Jansson was featured in writer Elizabeth Gilbert’s Instagram a few months ago. I became obsessed with Jansson’s Moomin series when I was a first or second grader spending a few horribly homesick days up north with not-super-close relatives. I still love Moomin and yet had never read any of Jansson’s adult fiction (not that there’s much of it). This slim little novel hangs on the summer a young girl spends with her bohemian grandmother on a remote island in the Gulf of Finland. Like all of Jansson’s books, this was ephemeral and riotous and unsettling and sad and philosophical, and altogether beautiful.
Black Death at the Golden Gate: The Race to Save America from the Bubonic Plague  by David K. Randall was this month’s nonfiction selection. I never knew that San Francisco was the center of an outbreak of Bubonic Plague around the turn of the century. It’s not only interesting from a medical standpoint, but also from a political and sociological view, as well. It should come as no surprise that when the outbreak starts in Chinatown, fear, hatred, and racism soon follow.
Then She Was Gone by Lisa Jewell, sadly,  I just did not like at all. This is my first Jewell novel although I know she’s quite popular and I’ve seen her name around a lot. This book just didn’t do it for me and I’m not sure I can explain why. It had the components of something I would like, but I found all the characters unlikeable, the atmosphere creepy and cold and the story, although not as dark as many things I read, felt stifling and unbearably gloomy. Should I try her again or is this a pretty standard offering?
As I mentioned, I had a relatively quick work trip to Indiana and, faced with about eight hours in the car, I brought along an audiobook to keep me company…I never know if it’s kosher to count audiobooks as “reads” (I don’t track them on Goodreads, after polling my Facebook friends, who almost unanimously said that “listening” to a book can’t be called “reading” it) – but hey, a book is a book, so I include this in the spirit of inclusiveness. The Dutch House is my first Ann Patchett novel (although like Lisa Jewell I’ve seen her all over the place). I enjoyed Tom Hanks’ narration, I liked many of the characters, which is important, and although I didn’t necessarily love it, it was a fine companion for my drive. I think essentially it’s the story of a brother and sister and how their relationship sustains when every other primary relationship in their lives falter. And there’s an evil stepmother and, of course, as the title would indicate, a grandiose house in there, too.
I hope your month has been full of great reads – can’t wait to check out some of your blogs and compile some new recommendations to track down. Be well and be kind to yourself during this busy and often stressful season. Sneak away and lose yourself in a book as much as you need to in order to make it through happy, healthy, and joyful.
xoxo and see you next month!
Life According to Steph

 

making soap at the michigan folk school

My mom got me a subscription to Midwest Living, and in a recent issue, they had a great article about folk schools. It was lovely and I found myself thinking, ‘wow, if there was something like that around here, I would really want to take advantage of it!’  I didn’t have to feel envious and left-out for long; as soon as I got to the index, I saw the Michigan Folk School is located a bit north of Ann Arbor, where I work. And as if that wasn’t enough of an enticement, it’s part of a historic farmstead that I drive past almost every day on my commute.

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From the article – “Recharge Your Spirit at a Midwest Folk School” – “Folk schools emerged in 19th-century Denmark. These grassroots schools channeled life skills, cultural identity and the natural world to dignify rural life and farmers. Scandinavian heritage still anchors many Midwest folk schools, with daylong and weekend workshops on rosemaling, woodworking, metalsmithing or fiber arts.”

The Michigan Folk School is located at the Staebler family farm on Plymouth Road in Washtenaw County. This is or was a working farm with a 140-year old farmhouse, and the Folk School is currently developing additional facilities to support their extensive dreams and plans. Right now, you park in a somewhat lonely carpark and trudge along a curving path to the small set of buildings – barn, outbuildings, and house – and you wonder if you’re in the right place until you push open the door to a warm, friendly and bustling workspace.

Yesterday, when I arrived for my basic cold-process soap workshop, I was joined by twelve or so other people, and more came in from the cold to come walk through to the adjoining blacksmith workshop. Soon, my class introduced ourselves to the faint accompaniment of clanging iron and the smell of coal smoke. Most of us were folks who had an interest in soap making but were scared of working with lye; most of us were folks who loved a return to the old traditional ways, the handmade and homemade, and wanted to be more self-sufficient, do more with our hands, and preserve arts that are quickly becoming obsolete. And most of us wanted to make our own soaps to reduce packaging, be environmentally friendly, and lessen our contact with synthetics, perfumes, dyes and chemicals.

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We were split up into table groups of three or four and I found myself joined up with two great women who work together in the operating room at the University of Michigan hospital – I suspect they are doctors but I did not ask. We were too busy measuring, pouring, agreeing on an essential oil for our shared soap batch (lemongrass). We worked together really well, seamlessly sharing the tasks of pouring and mixing the lye and the oils, and using infrared thermometers to check our temperatures. The three hours flew by and before I knew it, I was walking back along the rutted, frozen path holding two containers of handmade soap that I can cut tomorrow and then cure for 4-6 weeks.

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The staff at the Folk School were so friendly and passionate about their place, and everyone that I met felt immediately like a friend. I can’t wait to test my soap, and the class made me very comfortable with learning more about soap making on my own. I plan on collecting a few bits and bobs of equipment and trying my own batch after the holidays. And I loved the Folk School so much that I plan to go back for more classes – Healing Balms, Salves, and Creams in January and maybe after that, stained glass or sourdough bread (a long-dormant passion of mine).

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